When you were little did you dream big? What was that dream? I really don't think most of us grow up and think, "Wow, when I grow up I want to struggle." "When I'm older I want to live in a one bedroom apartment looking out on concrete where I can hear my next door neighbor sneeze and barely be able to pay my bills." or "Oh boy, I want to live in a trailer park." (unless maybe your Mathew McConaughey and your trailer overlooks the ocean?) We dream of being royalty and know that perhaps that might not really happen but we'll have nice things and a nice home and wonderful friends and a spouse who is magically wonderfully in love with us and us with them and life will all turn out beautiful. It can and it does for some. So why are they so few and what can we do right now, today to turn things into our dream life? To say "Believe it" and then it will happen is unfortunately becoming cliche. It is true, but the belief needs to become the being. Depending on where someone is at, that might very well be a bit of a process as they start to become who they desire to be and take appropriate actions. They might make different choices in apparel. They might start eating some new foods and letting go of some of the old habits. It is exactly like building a character that an actor would play. The living, breathing, multi-dimensional person that you want to be needs to become who you are in order for you to have the life that you desire to be living. You build it one step at a time and at a pace that you feel is appropriate. When someone builds too quickly they can sometimes combust and quit and revert back to what feels safe. When one goes too slowly they can often feel like it isn't happening and why bother and also revert back into old ways of being and doing things. That is one of the valuable reasons to work with a coach as the new you gets set in motion and practiced, you need support. The old patterns and ways will be loud or sometimes upsets start to spring up as it can be very uncomfortable to become who you desire to be at first. Your friends and family are really not a support during the transition time, because they are rooting for you to stay the same. You picked your friends specifically because they supported your ideas and beliefs so they might not like a more successful, slender and fantastic you. It can feel threatening to their own identity that wants to remain safely intact and the same. The core of you doesn't change. It's your beliefs and actions that will shift the most. Like a butterfly emerging from the Caterpillar it once was, we always have the opportunity to grow and fly freely. When we are little it is expected that we try things on and go through many transformations. As we become older there are things expected of us or that we decide and often we get stuck. Some get stuck in patterns of weight gain. Some get stuck in relationships that level off into a bland, just okay area. Some get stuck in jobs they didn't really want but it gave them safety. Then there are folks who go from success to success and good money to great money and having more than one home and a lot of freedom and fun. Wouldn't you like to be more like them? Start being it, make a plan and you really can have it all!
